What is real love ?
Many people are misinterpreted about LOVE WORD, they regarded that the love is about feeling liked or were happy that very extraordinary to someone so as caused want to have them by various ways, by the true nor wrong one according to the understanding respectively each person. The happiness or pleasure someone to something definitely will have an impact on the person's wish to have something he want in the hope that after what he liked could be received, he will get satisfaction or the special happiness from something that he liked. Like someone who liked the car or the house or placed property, definitely this person will try as hard as possible to get what he liked in this case was the car, the house or property. The person worked hard without knew tired, both day and night in order to get what he liked. What he liked must he had, and if not he had then his heart felt annoyed, annoyed and a pile of other disappointed feeling. But was the reverse if something that he liked that could he received, then his heart was happy, happy and happy with all the feelings of happiness. From there afterwards the person considered that the feeling liked him that was so big to something that was acknowledged as the love, Emerge terms were more inexact a kind “love to wealth” for something that in the eyes of most people was not better. In fact if we wanted to ponder the meaning real love words, then so noble the person who loved the wealth. So the problem was in the wrong understanding of most people towards love words. Often we heard a man who had the heart to kill a woman cause of “love”, he killed on the basis of being so big loved her but the woman did not love him, than not he had tolerable in killed, that of course wrong if on the basis of the love afterwards must have, so as than could not have it was better to be killed then. There was again the statement that “love could make someone do unrealistic, the love could make the person blind to everything”, the statement had correctly was also untrue depended from how the context of the problem. Therefore let's discussed the meaning of real love.
the love not be the same as liked or liked that was so big, the love had the special meaning that was nobler than just liked. If we liked a certain thing mentioned the flower for example, then in our heart was gotten by the wish to have it, afterwards if we had it that was felt by us was the happy feeling, conversely if we could not have him that was felt by us was annoyed or angry to feel disappointed with our reality could not have the flower that was meant. From this example could be said that the feeling of liked in the essence was aimed by us for the happiness ourselves, in other words that we who had the feeling liked against something that had the position as subject whereas something we like as object. The existence object was only for the interests subject. Subject could “doing” any against object including eliminated object, because subject without object still could be significant but object without subject certainly is no meaning. So as clear that liking something was to make something that was liked as object for the interests subject. Therefore was different the meaning words liked and words love. The love made or promoted the level something that was liked from the position originally as object to subject. Therefore what was liked that could not be positioned as something for the interests subject. This was caused something that originally object changed the position to subject, while the love automatically occupied the position as object that could be held or abolished according to the desire subject, if being needed then object was placed and on the other hand if being not needed might object was eliminated. So that was the basic difference between liked and the love.If we liked something/someone, then that became thinking/our consideration was the interests ourselves as subject, whereas something/someone’s “interests” that we liked to become further consideration or even to be not considered completely. Was different if we loved something, then that became thinking/consideration was something/someone’s “interests” that we the love, now our interests must we “eliminated” in order to our love against something/someone that we the love. Deliberately the interests words I input in quotation marks that we could preferably have a wise attitude by placing everything reasonably towards the interests of various sides, so as to be expected to not have the term “love is blind”. One matter still is the love usually was preceded with the feeling of liking or being interested although not closing the possibility because the other factor could affect someone loved the other person. Nevertheless not all the feelings liked to be able to grow into the feeling of the love, all depended on the good intention and the understanding respectively the person towards the meaning of real love. To understand more again far concerning the difference between the love and liked, I wll try to explain a concrete example concerning the love. One case is We loved something, placed for example first we loved a thing like the car. Initially we saw a car in one show room, from our first view has been attracted by the car, we felt liked so as to buy it. If our feeling towards the car only liked, we will treat the car as object for our interests. By the car has become our property then our heart felt happy, furthermore as the owner of the car we were free to use it by our heart desire without paying attention to the rights from the car personally, available in our thoughts only our interests. It was different if we to the stage loved the car, we were prosecuted to pay attention to the car rights as subject, how big loved to the car and so be demanded by our self-sacrifice for the interests of the car. A kind bathed the car if appearing dirty, beautified the car with the increase in accessories that were not yet available in a manner the standard et cetera that in case being carried out to fill the rights from the car. So loved the car that regarded the car then as subject, not merely object only. The matter like this then was current for the wealth that we loved, we did not only treat the wealth for the interests ourselves only, but rather from using the wealth to fill the rights than the wealth, yes the wealth also had the right as humankind, that was the reason how noble in fact someone who loved the wealth. The two examples above actually was analogous from the example that will be explained by me furthermore concerning the love to someone. Place We loved someone that at the beginning met has had the feeling was interested and liked, the feeling of the love could emerged at the time of first met, but from most people not the love that the first time emerged, but liked. From just liked so in the future could emerge the feeling of the love. Someone that already in the love stage, he no longer think about whether the person who was loved that loved him or not. Someone that has to this stage, no longer made himself as subject that notabene thinking/his consideration still towards the interests himself, but was the reverse he will place someone who was loved as subject from himself. All what he did was directed for the interests a person who was loved, to happiness that was loved, for the pleasure that was loved, et cetera that was not free from the understanding someone who was loved by him. Yes, the love is understood not asked to be understood. What was done by us was for we loved not wanted her/him did for us, because of the love gave, not ask for or demanded. So the love placed the object that was loved as subject. Not the love if could not understand, not the love if could not understand and not the love if could not give. So three concepts of the foundation of the love, understood, understood and gave. If we admitted to loving someone, but we could not understand and understand his/her feeling that actually did not have the feeling liked or was interested to us, but we continued to insist continued to carry out the approach to him/her and so make him/her feel not comfortable with our presence, that not loved, but liked ! Or in other words in fact we did not love the person but loved ourselves. The love was gave the best to that was loved, although must sacrifice ourself personally, the love was understood and understood how that was loved. Indeed love was beautiful whenever it was among two loving people mutually, but the love was sometimes painful if was among two people who were not in love with each other. But the true love did not know was sick moreover hated, because of being sick that will be destroyed automatically whenever witnessing someone who was loved being happy although not together us. So the love that really be different from liked. (Surianame-13)
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